The art of non-clinging

Life is full on. Constant impulses, triggers, desires, expectations. So what happens when you feel that your life is changing or even you are ill or dying? Probably you too feel sheer fear, resistance, clinging to what we call life.

In Buddhist philosophy an important concept is the Law of impermanence. Nothing is permanent. Everything just comes and goes. We are constantly changing our jobs, where we live, who we are married to, we might become rich or poor in an instant. Even our breath is coming and going. Everything is constantly changing. So why are we resisting the change?

I was contemplating on my own death the other night. Am I ready to die? No, not yet. But then, why I cannot accept death? I achieved so much. I experienced so much. I have amaizing adult children so my legacy is ready. I have seen many parts of the world already. Then what am I clinging to? Is it still something I want to do, be with someone or achieve something else? Words flashing like family, travel, ..., desperately trying to find something that is important to hold onto.

At the same time, it is so nice to be at peace, in the quiet, motionless. I often enjoy even holding my breath for prolonged periods to be in complete stillness. Thoughts are coming and going but I am just aware, just be. Experiencing the nothingness. So why is the attachment to this body and to our usual way of things and life?

Rebirthing happens all the time without our knowledge: get a new skill, a new job, new family, new habits, new levels of awareness.. But, we are constantly in the past or in the future, our minds never at rest, always want something different, something new, something still needs to be done.

To achieve internal peace, we need to be connected to our Self through awareness, through our heart-space, and be aware of our midline. We need balanced masculine and feminine sides, balanced emotions, feeling and acknowledging all the parts of body, and listening to our heart-based intuition. Through this balance, the Self will guide our life and connect us to the oneness of the universe.

When we are at peace, we are calm, grounded, flexible, and our heart can soften and open. There is nowhere to go. We arrived to our real life: to the present. The past has happened, the future is not here yet. What we can live fully is the present. In the present, you have everything. You breath. You have a home. Your basic needs are met. You are finally in touch with your internal wisdom. We can realise that no one will make us happy but us. Nothing else will make us satisfied, rather we can be grateful what we already have and know that it is enough. We cannot avoid illness and death. We cannot save others from illness or death or even from challenging life experiences.

There is nowhere to go. What you can only offer to yourself and others is your full attention and presence. To be there whatever you or they actually need.

Don't think about what would be useful. Just be fully present, quiet and listen closely what your Self or others are asking from you without clinging to anything or to any outcome.